Even starting to consider leaving a relationship can be painful. Whether it is romantic, professional, or social, it can feel overwhelming.
I get it, sometimes we devote so much time to something that the thought of walking away can seem like a failure.
You keep telling yourself that you’ve been working on this for so long that it simply MUST work out.
You just have to work harder. Or work smarter. Or try a different approach. No matter what, you need to just keep going.
And when that something is a relationship? Well then it can feel even more like there is a solution or fix out there that you just haven’t found yet.
But it’s not going to work.
Recognizing when to walk away is important.
If you take a moment to pause, and give yourself the grace of a deep breath, you might notice that the thing you’re working so hard for is not what will serve you best.
Maybe this relationship was never supposed to last forever
Perhaps it was never even meant to be
Maybe the challenge of it was the purpose and you’re ready to move forward now
You see, we must be willing at some point to recognize that the best thing we can do for ourselves is to walk away. And while it is easy to think of this moment as giving up, I encourage you to reconsider that what you’re really doing is recommitting to yourself.
Recommitting to your own value, your own sanity, your own wellbeing.
Just because we’ve spent a lot of time on something, doesn’t mean we have to keep spending more time on it.
So take a moment to step back and ask yourself these questions:
Is this relationship bringing value to my life?
Do I think this relationship is in my best interest?
Why am I as invested in this relationship as I am?
Is the other person as invested as I am?
Give yourself time to really reflect on your answers. They may surprise you.
Walking away from a relationship is rarely easy but it is often beneficial.
Because once we allow ourselves to see the situation as it is, and not what we wish it to be, we’re able to reclaim our power and finally move forward.
So give yourself an opportunity to move freely into the next chapter of your life. Recognize the lessons you’ve learned. Do you now know what you’re willing to tolerate in a relationship? Have you started to learn about boundaries? Is it easier to recognize people that fill up your cup as opposed to those who drain you?
Even unhealthy relationships are never a waste of time if you give yourself a chance to reflect.
So take a moment, breathe, and know that you’re not alone. If you give yourself permission, you’ll recognize that we’re all granted the opportunity for infinite growth in this life and this is a part of yours.
You’ve got this. And as always, I’ve got you.
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